Today, all across the news and social media, everyone is talking about the new Air Jordan’s that have been rereleased…..same material and same design as the first time, same exact shoe, for a higher price.

People are standing in line for hours upon hours for these shoes, riots and fights have been breaking out all across the country for these…..shoes. People are spending their entire checks too get these same shoes….that everyone else has. It’s almost as if the hysteria and hype and aura behind the Air Jordan’s have people believing that their lives are going to change if they have these shoes. Like somehow that completes them as a person or will improve their lives.

But it won’t. New J’s will come out. And the same J’s that just came out will come out again. And people will stand in line to buy them again, worried, anxious…hoping that they get them. Meanwhile, Life is passing by.

This is not an attack on J’s, the same could be said for iPhones, iPad’s, and other things (which I’m a victim of), the issue at hand is our emphasis on things that don’t improve our lives, definitely don’t improve the lives of those around us, and become our idols….

Idolatry.

We waste all this time and spend all this money too get things that “set us apart,” failing to realize everyone else standing in line is doing the same thing. In the end, we’re all still “the same.”

When the first iPad came out, I got it right before I went to Peru, I thought I was something. I proudly walked around Peru looking for Wi-Fi (too show off my iPad.) Guess what? They didn’t care about an iPad, they cared about one thing. How they were going to eat that day and provide for their families.

I recently warmed the homeless by passing out sweatshirts and toboggans too those in my own community. Do you think they cared about J’s? They’d much rather have a toboggan, gloves, and socks, for themselves and their loved ones.

Yet we complain if we couldn’t get in line first to get the latest new Sneakers? While we wait in line for 12 hours, our significant others and families are missing out on the time we could be spending with them.

Yet we seem to never have enough time for those we care about. We seem to be too busy to make it to church for an hour a week. We seem to be too broke to tithe, yet we can stand in line half a day and spend $200 on some shoes that we already bought years ago for $120.

We as a country, have to wake up. We have to put value back on things that matter. Family, friends, relationships, FAITH. Things that last. Things that can’t be bought. Eternal things.

If you really want to stand out, try putting shoes on those who can’t afford them. Try being a great parent or loving spouse, try improving your community.

It might not impress people, but it’ll sure impress the One who will Judge it All in the End.

Baylor

I want a girl that set trends, not follow the crowd 
I want a girl that works hard, not look for handouts 

I want a girl  who knows her beauty, and doesn’t have to strip to show it
I want a girl who doesn’t seek attention, it finds her 

I want a girl that sees where i’m headed, not where I’m at
I want a girl that listens to her heart, not the hearsay

I want a girl that views me as an equal, not a crutch
I want a girl that stimulates mind, not just my body

….I guess I don’t want a girl, I want a WOMAN!

-Trent & Baylor

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“Mo Money Mo Problems”

Money buys pleasure, it does not buy happiness.  “The love of money is the root of all evil” therefore when you have more, evil is attracted to it.  I’m not saying that being rich is bad; just know that you have to be stronger with it.  There’s a huge misconception that “money will solve all my problems,” ask any wealthy person you know and they’ll inform you that it creates new and larger problems.

“My Hunger is Unexplainable”

To become highly successful in life you have to have an “unexplainable hunger” to succeed.  You have to need that dream or that goal like you need oxygen to breathe.  An “Unexplainable” hunger is one you can’t define.  Others around you wont get it or understand; it’s extreme focus.  The bottom line is, you don’t get to the top by merely just existing or going with the flow…. you don’t get there by “wanting” it, you have to “need it.”

“I love the life I Live, I turned a negative into a positive”

You’ve no doubt seen our “See My Heart not My Past” t-shirts that 1000’s of people wear.  We all have a past, we’ve all made mistakes.  However, too many people think that their past mistakes are too much too overcome, that they’ve messed up “too bad.”  God forgives us, we should forgive ourselves.  We’re blessed to have the ability to overcome negative pasts, negative situations, and turn them into positive and productive lives.  There is a bright future for anyone that chooses to create one.  After all, all beautiful pictures come from “negatives.” Make yours a picture perfect life.

“Never Timid, Only make moves when your hearts in it”

You have to attack your goals and your dreams confidently and fearlessly.  But in order to do that you must believe in what it is you’re trying to achieve.  If you don’t believe you can accomplish something or that something is possible to attain, you’ll be beaten to that dream by someone who does.  That’s why it’s vital to only chase dreams that your heart is into; that you believe in. Heart is what carries you towards your goal when hype dies.

“If the game shakes me or breaks me, I hope it makes me a better man”

The game of life is one filled with twists and turns, triumphs and trials.  It’s not a “smooth and easy ride” for anyone, nor is it supposed to be.  There’s a silver lining and every dark cloud, you have to go through valleys to appreciate the mountaintops.  When life is beating you down, don’t’ worry so much about “getting through it” because you will, instead focus on improving, learning, and growing from the experience.  The peak of the mountain is a good place to be, but remember, it’s the sides of the mountain, aka the journey, that sustains life.  Learn to appreciate it.

-Baylor (@BaylorBarbee)

If you’re not familiar with chess, you have several different pieces, all with unique abilities to move in certain directions. You have your pawns on the front line and several other pieces leading up to your most important piece, the King. The object of chess is to protect the King, and capture the opposing team’s King.
Life is a lot like that. God put us all on the same board, Earth. Some of us start out in different positions, such as a front line pawn, while some of us are born into a lot of security, with a large supporting cast around us like the King or Queen. However, unlike Chess, God gives us the free will to be any chess piece we want in life.
That’s right, you can assume any role you want in life, whether it be a pawn or a King/Queen. How is that you ask?Everyday you define your role. How you move, how you operate, how you plan. In chess, a pawn can move one space, at most two spaces. A Queen on the other hand can move in any direction, as far as she wants. Think about your life. There are no limitations on how much you can accomplish in a day. No one will ever tell you, you’ve gone to far today, you’ve accomplished too much, and you must stop here. We place those limitations on ourselves sometimes. We don’t strive for royalty, we settle for being pawns.

God doesn’t want that for us. God wants us to move about freely, He wants us to cover “the entire board.” That’s why He put us on it.
In Chess, inexperienced players usually sacrifice their pawns early in the game and try and protect “the important pieces.” Losing a pawn doesn’t affect us, but losing a bishop, a queen, and especially a King hurts us. In life, we define our roles based on the decisions we make. Too many people lead careless, uncalculated lives, running right into the enemy. When you think only about your own motives and not those of the people around you, you’re setting yourself up to get captured by the enemy and wiped off the board, so to speak.

Look at people you admire and look up to. There’s a good chance they live their lives as royalty. They put a solid support group around them. They work well with others. They make calculated moves and they plan very well. Aside from that, when it’s time to make a move in life, they strike hard and cover a lot of ground.

You can do the same. You can be Kings and Queens on this Chess Board of Life. All it takes is a change in your mindset. You must live your life as a piece that matters, and subsequently, people around you will start treating you as such.

Always remember, at the end of the game the King and the Pawn go in the same box. Make the most of your time on this Earth, live a life of a piece that matters, and win!

-Baylor

Don’t ask why you’re crying,
KNOW WHY you’ll smile again

Don’t ask why it hurts,
KNOW WHY you’re getting stronger

Don’t ask why they left
KNOW WHY you won’t let them back

Don’t ask why they didn’t love you
KNOW WHY you loved them

Don’t ask WHY your heart’s broke
KNOW WHY your heart will heal

Time to STOP asking WHY? because it’s time to start knowing WHY.
“Erase the Question Mark & Insert a Period.”
#Rehabtime2012

Peace & Love,
~Monet~ @singlewmnsguide

–Sarah Aghili,
Designer and CEO of SarahAghili.com
@TheSarahAghili

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We as Rehabbers don’t believe believe in New Years Resolutions, we
believe in having our GOAL met BY NEW YEARS. While others are
planning to reach their goals on January 1st, we have already met
ours. We will go into 2012 with a head start on the rest of the
world! On the Rehab Time calendar our January 1st starts on November 1ss.

The will be an accountability system for every Rehabber involved. We
are not just going to say “make a goal and get there”, NO we are going
to keep each other accountable weekly to make SURE we get there
together. There is some guidelines below to follow for the contest.
You can put whatever GOAL you want, It can be fitness, it could be
spiritual growth, or mental growth. Your goal might be to write a
book, or your goal might be to lose 20 pounds….whatever it is, set it
and we will make sure we hold each other accountable for reaching it.

Guidelines:

1)You must Write your Goal or Goals (no more than two) that you will accomplish by January 1st, 2012 and email it to info@rehabtime.org subject heading “Rehab New Years.”

2) Attach a description on WHY you are doing your goal and more importantly WHO you are doing it for. It’s our belief that when you achieve goals with others in mine, you’ll maintain the motivation to achieve it.

3) Every week you must email a pic, video, or write about your
progress made for the week by every Sunday at 9pmCST. (For example, if
in your plan you wanted to lose two pounds a week, send us a picture
with you on the scale showing that loss.) This must be done every
week.

The winner of this challenge will receive, an article about them on
rehabtime.org, A month of free mentorship by Rehab Time, Free
Rehab Time Merchandise, and other prizes.

Remember a resolution is merely an “attempt” to do something. Here at
rehab time, we don’t believe in attempts, we believe in results. Will
you join us?

I trusted money, it left me broke
I trusted my job, it left me unemployed

I trusted free meals, they came with a price
I trusted happiness, it left me sad

I trusted drugs, they left me depressed
I trusted fame, it left me lonely

I trusted friends, they turned their back
I trusted sex, it left me confused

But when I began to trust God……I was NEVER let down!
Trust in Him!

#rehabtime

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Painting is one of those things that looks easy when you’re watching others do it, but will teach you a valuable lesson when you attempt it. Walking in to attempt my first piece, I had visions of being the next Leonardo Da Vinci or Jean-Michel Basquiat.

I looked at their work all day and watched YouTube videos on how to paint. In my mind, I was going to be great.

Hours after I picked up the brush for the first time, I realized I was no Basquiat. While I learned that my art may never grace the walls of the Louvre next to Da Vinci’s “Mona Lisa”, Jacques-Louis David’s “Oath of the Horatii,” or Rembrandt’s, “Supper at Emmaus,” I also learned a few lessons that we can all learn from and apply to our lives.

Don’t Be Afraid to Try New Things

Too often in life we think that all the “fun and exotic” things in life are in beaches or countries far away. We also often think that the culture that we’re involved in is THE only culture. I learned that there is a whole culture of painters who live in the same city as me and have drastically different views of things than I do. Going to that painting studio took me about as far out of my comfort zone as I could possibly go. Through meeting new people and watching how they paint, I learned to enjoy myself. When you try new things, you can’t help but open your mind to new ways of thinking and different view points; all of which can then be applied to situations and circumstances in your own life.

Have a Vision for the Masterpiece You Want to Create

In Art, you have a limited amount of canvas to paint your picture on and you can’t erase acrylic paint. In life, you have a limited amount of days and often can’t undo your mistakes. Therefore it’s important to visualize what you want the end result to look like so that you can plan your painting/life accordingly. If you don’t know what you’re trying to accomplish in your painting before you start, your end product is not going to turn out great. Such is life; if you don’t have a goal or vision, you’ll just float through life with no meaningful masterpiece in the end.

Learn to Adapt

Even with the best planning and the greatest vision for what you set out to accomplish, Something will always change…adapt to it. In life, even things that seem elementary and are, therefore, overlooked, can end up being the greatest obstacles. When planning my background, I thought how hard could it be to paint a couple of circles to make a sun and give it a gradient effect? Ended up being very hard. In fact, on the very first brush stroke (a big circle “attempt”) I messed up, and therefore, thought the entire painting was over. But that happens in life. Things don’t go as planned. That doesn’t mean you can’t still create your masterpiece. You just have to find ways to adapt so that you can still reach your end goal.

Laugh at Yourself

Most of us don’t try new things because we are afraid of failure or we’re afraid that others won’t think we’re any good at whatever venture we set out to do. I learned that if you learn to laugh at yourself, not only will you find that what others say won’t bother you, but you’ll also learn that most people genuinely support you trying new things and are not in your life to tell you you’re not any good. You’re not going to be great at everything (the first time you do it), so it should be funny.
In life, you’ll make stupid mistakes; laugh at them first, then learn from them. It’ll help your quality of life. If you really want to laugh, look at the final version of my painting and see how ridiculously disproportioned my “b2” signature is. It wasn’t until I got home that I realized, “Okay, that might be a little too excessively large!”

Find the Beauty in Everything

Love & Loneliness – Baylor Barbee

Years ago, I would have said there’s a better chance in me winning an Olympic Gold medal in a sport I’ve never played than for me to “get into” art, especially my own. When I walked into the art studio I was instantly intimidated by all the great paintings on the wall. Through hours of trudging through different size brushes, paint combinations, and brush strokes, I noticed something. I noticed that my little amateur sunset was a beautiful sunset. I realized that my two little misshaped, wrong-colored and wrong-placed shadow and accent marked birds were…beautiful birds. I realized that my first painting was a…beautiful piece of art. Not because it ever has a chance at winning an award, not because it was visually stunning; it was neither. It was beautiful because I found the beauty in it.

I saw beauty in completing a new task. I saw beauty in overcoming failed brush strokes and color mixtures. I saw beauty in trying to add accent marks to make my birds look like birds. I found beauty in the misshaped wings, heads, and beaks of my birds. Overall, I saw the beauty because I saw a finished product amongst the struggles it took to get there.

But that’s not the best part. After my painting, I looked back at those previously “intimidating paintings” on the wall. Were they still intimidating? No. They were beautiful. I could now see the pain, the struggle, and the story in all of those artists art as well. I realized, they too, are people with problems, all trying to express themselves, their lives, and their stories in an artistic manner as well.

Your life is a canvas. Make it a masterpiece. After all, you have a Father in Heaven who is your biggest Fan and ever so anxious to see you paint a great life on the canvas He gave you.

-Baylor

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Then tell your baby mama you can’t pay child support, because you don’t have the funds?

You have time to go to the club

but too busy to raise your seed,

spending hundreds at the mall

but cant buy a movie to teach your kid the ABC’s?

You said it makes you look like a parent,

so you never bought a car seat.

You stay in the latest Jordan’s

but you can’t buy shoes for your kids feet?

You stay on the phone,

with that new iPhone you bought,

but say you don’t have the minutes,

when the little one wants to talk?

You know all the NFL scores,

but you don’t even know your seed’s grades.

Yet, in public you pretend to love them,

just to hide your dead beat ways?

Be a father and raise your little boy or little girl,

because we need less dead beats,

and more fathers in the world!

Every once in a while I come across a quote that instills a paradigm shift in this already-motivated mind of mine.  My Dad sent me this quote this morning.

“Success bases our worth on a comparison with others.  Excellence gauges our values by measuring us against our own potential.” – John Johnson

Stop and think about that for a second.  How powerful of a statement is that?  What does it mean to you?  In case you don’t really understand it, let me break it down for you.

To simply “succeed” is not enough.  If you call yourself successful or others call you successful, that’s great, but it’s not enough.  The true question is, are you living up to your own potential?  Very few of us are.  I haven’t come close to reaching mine.  Others may see the master’s degrees, achievements, businesses, etc. and call me a success, but….if I don’t reach the heights of the potential God gave me, am I really a “success”?  The same could be said for you. 

For instance, I’m fortunate to come from a great family who provided for me and helped me tremendously and motivated me.  With the opportunities they provided me, I was able to get a great education and turn that into great businesses.  Success right? Maybe.  Compared to the potential God has given me, am I Excellent? Nope.  Which matters more? What people say I am or what God has created me to be? Ask yourself the same question.

I often speak on success, and I’m a big advocate of it.  I’ll continue to do so, but my definition of success has now changed.  At the end of the day, who cares how well you do compared to other people?  Your race is not theirs, and theirs is not yours, God doesn’t let you into heaven based on how well you did against everybody else.  He lets you in based on how well you do against the ultimate opponent….You.  In Galatians 6:4 Paul says, “Do your own work well, and then you will have something to be proud of.  Do not compare yourself with others.” 

Nothing good happens from comparing yourself to others.  Either you feel you aren’t as good as them and feel bad, or you compare yourself to those you deem “below” you in order to make yourself feel good. You may be “successful” according to your own standards, but are you Excellent?

We all have our own path; we all have our own race.  It’s important to remember that the track in your life has only two lanes.  In one lane is the ghost of potential.  It’s the “what you could be.”  In the other lane is where you are. 

Don’t get lapped by your potential. Live your life so that the race between you and your potential ends in a photo finish.  Be Excellent Today!

-Baylor

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Should I stay or should I go?
The words that battle within my mind.

Trying to decide if this is time well spent…or if this relationship is
just a waste of time.

Should I stay or should I go? So confident, but yet, so confused.

I want to do the right thing…but the question is, what’s the right
thing to do? See, I got the right reasons to leave…they just feel so
wrong. Maybe it’s the fear of loneliness that won’t let me settle for
being alone.

Should I stay or should I go? I’m torn between the two…

I need to move on, but I can’t move past the thought…of life without
you. Life, how could you take someone I knew so well and turn them
into a person I no longer know? That’s why it makes it that much
harder when I ask myself…

Should I stay or should I go?

Love,
A Confused Heart

This one here is more out of necessity.

It is no secret Rehab Time has grown worldwide in the 2 short years since we started it. A lot of people think that Rehab Time is built on success. Yes, it is successful, however, our foundation was built on truth. It was not necessarily built on knowing how to lead people the right way, but by being vulnerable and open enough with people to show them the wrong paths we’ve been down.

This was to accomplish two goals.

1) Prevent people from making our mistakes.

2) To show people out there, regardless of circumstance, someone is going through it with you.

Without further adieu, this is me. Here’s my Biggest Mistake. Here’s my truth.

I’ve always been labeled a “success.”  I made great grades in school, played collegiate football at the highest level (Big XII) on scholarship, received a master’s degree from Baylor University, and since I graduated in 2006, I have worked for no one but myself. Along with Trent, aside from starting Rehab and seeing it’s growth, we ran and performed for a highly successful rock/rap band, “Game 7,” and lived and saw the things you see when you think of rock stars.  I’ve been fortunate to reach a lot of people, influence and help a lot of lives, and grow a large following.

The other day, Trent said, “if you don’t know where I’ve been, how can you appreciate where I am?”  Truer words were never spoken.  I’m deemed a success, ironically, and though they always tell you “money isn’t everything” and “fame isn’t’ all it’s cracked up to be,” it never means anything until you lose something or someone that matters a lot.

You know me for who I am and what I tweet, speak, write, etc.…but let me rewind a few years, before my growth, before Rehab Time. Let me let you all in on my biggest mistake.

I had an amazing lady.  She was there for me, believed in me, and supported me when literally no one else did. She would have given me the world, and she did.  What did I do? I took it for granted. I had good intentions, but I put success, money, a quest for fame…I put all those meaningless things ahead of her, because in my mind, once I achieved those things, then we could go live our lives happily together.

Let me tell you something. Life doesn’t work that way. You don’t get the king’s castle and then go back and get the queen.  A Real man builds the castle WITH his queen.

My mom told me that, my brother told me that, my good friends all told me to treat her better or I’d lose her.  I didn’t listen; I was blinded by the spotlights and the visions of grandeur.  Somehow though, God used everyone in my life to try to warn me. I ignored it and I did things “Baylor’s way.”

Baylor’s way, in my mind, was go get the money, come back, buy her the world, and all sins are forgiven. Guess what I learned? Money doesn’t buy a broken heart. You know what else? If someone really loves you, they don’t care if you have a trillion dollars or if you don’t have a penny to your name. That’s love.  That’s real. I didn’t see it.

And I lost her.

I blamed it on her not seeing “my vision.” I blamed it on “my drive.”

You know what it really was?  Arrogance, Ego, and Pride.

Looking back, I can’t even believe she stayed with me for the 3.5 years we stayed together. I don’t know how she held on that long. I really don’t.  Somewhere she needs a medal, an award, or something.

The bottom line is, it took a whole lot for me to push her away.

Men, if you listen to nothing else I ever say, listen to this:

When you push a woman past her breaking point, she’s gone. Trust Me. You won’t know when and you won’t know why, but you’ll know she’s gone.

And that’s my biggest mistake. I put money over love; I put spotlights and facades over someone who truly cared about me.  And one day, the spotlights turned of and It was just me….in the dark….alone.

My advice to those who have made the same mistakes; use it as a growing experience.  Use your growth as a tool to help others grow. They say no mistake is truly a mistake if you grow, learn, and apply those lessons to your future.

I’m not the only one that has made relationship mistakes, but hopefully my Biggest Mistake can prevent you from making yours.

-Baylor

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PS. I’m Sorry.

Signed,

ALL GOD’S CHILDREN WHO BELIEVE.

This is to all your enemies. Get them off your back, take the power back!!
They never had it anyway.

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How you celebrate shows who you are truly thanking.

- Trent

I would rather have influence over one than persuade a multitude. Influence will cause duplication. Persuasion may cause some to move in the moment, but soon the excitement will fade and any other persuasive act can cause the tide to move in another direction, depending on the wind and the set of the sail.

“From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.” (Luke 12:48)

Why do extraordinary athletes perform extraordinary athletic acts? They have been trained and the influence one of their mentors/ coaches imparted on them has caused a work ethic of duplication. We often hear the first part of this verse quoted, and it works fine by itself: “To whom much is given, much is required.” That concept even works well in the secular world, so much so that non-Christians quote it, perhaps without even knowing it’s biblical in origin.

What gifts has God given you that He has entrusted you to use? There are gifts that you have been entrusted with that you are still playing with, wasting, hoarding, etc. When GOD returns, what will He say to you about you burying your God-given talents? If He returned TODAY, would you be busy working for the Kingdom?

Just because you are not the President, does not mean you do not have influence. You are either influencing others or being influenced.

Today, the choice is yours. Your TALENTS were created for you and YOU ARE good at what you do. It is time to share the blessing with others. Use the gifts GOD has given you to make a difference in the world around you. DON’T let the world around you influence YOU.

Know your purpose and work it!!

Lou Gary Hughes Jr.

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The more you underestimate your worth, the more others will ignore your value. The less you respect yourself, the less others will respect you. I always see women saying that there are NO good men but you FIRST have to ask yourself, “Am I a good woman?”

In this life, you will attract the lifestyle that you live.

You can’t have nothing but a thong on in your profile pictures and expect a man to respect you. You can’t go home with a different athlete every weekend after the club, and expect a man to respect you.

If you want respect, you have carry yourself with respect.

I always hear women say, “I can’t dress sexy without being labeled or without having a guy trying to feel all up on me.” It’s not always about what you’re wearing, but how you carrying yourself while doing so. The same dress that is classy can easily turn into trashy, depending how you conduct yourself while in it.

Two women that model can take revealing photos. While one could be considered “artistic & beautiful,” the other could be considered “nasty & inappropriate.” Same amount of clothes, so what makes the difference?

The only difference is the way each woman is carrying herself.

Look, most times, you’re going to get most exactly what you give off. So if you want better, make sure you’re “that same better” you want when a man is looking for a woman.

I guarantee there are a lot of bad men in this world, but I can also guarantee another thing, there are also a lot of good men.

Side Note: Ladies, if you plan on getting sloppy drunk, which you shouldn’t but if you do, don’t wear short skirts so that when you’re falling all over the place, you’re showing the whole club what should be kept private.

A GOOD MAN does not want what the world has already seen!

If all the men that you have ever dated were JERKS and you met them at the club, what makes you think you are going to find someone different this time around?

Make your surroundings/environments “different” so you can hopefully find “different.”

-Trent

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Hazardous material is known to be harmful, toxic and not good for anyone that is exposed to it. To prevent being exposed to hazardous material, we are instructed to stay away from it until the scene has been cleaned up properly.

In the event that you become trapped and engaged in a hazardous material argument, it is important that you:

1. Immediately place your Haz-Mat gear on, which includes your smile mask – kill the toxic words with kind words.

2. Sprinkle the hazardous material spill with “it’s okay” powder – You may be having a bad day and that is probably what sparked this argument, but it’s okay, let’s just talk about this later.

3. Use the nearest exit – Take yourself away from the situation to prevent any further exposure to the hazardous fumes that may still be lingering in the air.

-John Turntine

What will you miss if you continue to settle?

- Trent #rehabtime

Today, you decide to be conscious of your choice.

Today, I share some insight on:

1. The effect of choices

2. The four stages of learning

3. Life assessment – resource to live a balanced life

All choices have consequences. We make physical, mental, social, and emotional decisions every single day. What’s really scary is most of those decisions are made unconsciously in our subconscious mind. Most people don’t know that they need to train it or most people don’t even know how to train it. So, their mind is left to be at the mercy of the subconscious.

For example, “we do it that way because of the way we were brought up.” “That’s the way my mama did it. That’s the way my daddy did it. So, that’s the way I do it!”

One of the major causes of poor choices is poor planning. If you are overweight, it could point to a lack of planning. Stress can point to a lack of planning. Curable diseases can point to a lack of planning. Most people eat poorly because of poor planning. Have you ever thought about having a backup food like a snack bar or a supplement drink as a backup plan? Most people, when they get off work late, and they don’t have time to cook dinner, what is the first thing that they think about?
You got it, the Fast Food restaurant! In most cases, this will contribute to obesity. However, what if they have a backup plan?

We can make a choice today to:

Have positive associations

Disassociate negative influences

Limit associations that are not productive

Seek good associations because all choices have consequences.

If you hang around people who are thinkers, then you will be a better thinker. If you hang around smokers, then you will become a better smoker. If you hang around drinkers, then you will become a better drinker. If you hang around people who do drugs, you will become better at doing drugs.

On the other hand, if you hang around people who go to church, you will become good at going to church. If you hang around people who have money, you will learn how to make money.
If you hang around people who are active in the community, you will be active in the community. If you hang around leaders, you will become a better leader.

The four stages of learning:

1. Unconscious Incompetence: The individual does not understand or know how to do something, therefore, he/she does not necessarily recognize the deficit. They may deny the usefulness of the skill. The individual must recognize their own incompetence and the value of the new skill, before moving on to the next stage. The length of time an individual spends in this stage depends on the strength of the stimulus to learn.

2. Conscious Incompetence: Though the individual does not understand or know how to do something, he/she does recognize the deficit, as well as the value of a new skill in addressing the deficit. The making of mistakes can be integral to the learning process at this stage.

3. Conscious Competence: The individual understands or knows how to do something. However, demonstrating the skill or knowledge requires concentration. It may be broken down into steps and there is heavy conscious involvement in executing the new skill.

4. Unconscious Competence: The individual has had so much practice with a skill that it has become “second nature” and can be performed easily. As a result, the skill can be performed while executing another task. The individual may be able to teach it to others, depending upon how and when it was learned.

The mind processes information four times faster than we speak.

Knowledge is only potential power.

Okay, let’s talk about application.

I would encourage everyone to buy the book, The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy.

Here is the link:

http://thecompoundeffect.com/resources.php

Take the Life Assessment Test on Darren Hardy’s Resource Page.

It will really test if you got balance in your life.

It is now time to face the truth and take a mini life assessment.

Okay, let’s be honest with yourself on the scale from 1 to 5,
1 being the lowest. We will ask a few questions from Darren Hardy’s Life Assessment Test which test 7 areas. It test relationships and family, physical, business, financial, spiritual, mental, and lifestyle.

Here are a few questions:

I spend at least 10 hours of focused time with my family each week.

I am actively engaged in learning how to be a better spouse a parent or better friend.

I do strength training at least three times a week.

During a typical day I watch no more than one hour TV.

I plan my day out the day before.

I consistently use my spirituality to help resolve my problems.

I study my spiritual beliefs daily.

I read something instructional or inspirational for at least 30 minutes a day.

I review what I’m grateful for every day.

I review my major goals every day.

I vacation at least once a year with no work communications.

I spend as much time as I want with my family.

I live life to the fullest every single day.

TODAY, TONIGHT evaluate the choices you are making in your life, take the Life Assessment test and start making choices that effect positive change, not only in your life but generations to come!!

No excuses, only abide by “The Ant Philosophy.”

“The Ant Philosophy”

Ants never quit. Ants never quit. You stop an ant and he’ll find another direction. How long will he try? Forever. He will keep looking until he finds a way. If this way was blocked, that means nothing! NO does not mean no. Ants never quit in the winter. Ants think about the summer. The storm can’t last forever. There’s never been a double winter. They think “winter” in the summer. Just because it’s nice outside doesn’t mean the weather may not change. They prepare and they anticipate that change will come so that when it does come, they will be prepared, but the key is every single day they’re planning, planning for the future.
They know their purpose in life, they know what they value the most, they know what their major daily goals are, and they pursue them with a passion and they NEVER quit.

The purpose behind these training methods is to better insure that you will be ready once the “bullets” start flying and you’re under “live action.”

The preparation is always more rigorous than the actual task. Why? To program your mind to think “I’ve been through worse so I surely handle this.”

I feel as Christians, God prepares us the same way. He allow us to go through hard times NOT to punish us, but because He has faith in us. He allows you to go through those weak moments because He knows you’re strong enough to handle it. He is giving you a test so you can turn into a testimony. He wants you to gain confidence in Him so he allows you to go through it just to show you that he can deliver from it.

You might go through the hardest days of your life in “spiritual boot camp,” but understand that He is preparing you not only for the trails you might endure in the future, but also to help others get through their tribulations.

God wants to turn you into a TRUE believer, that’s why He always provides the way when you can’t find your way because then you can confidently tell others, “He did it for me. I know he can do it for you.”

I know it might get rough sometimes but understand God is exercising your faith, strengthen your belief, and making you lean on him during your “spiritual boot camp.”

Take it as a blessing because he is preparing you to become a leader.

Verses to keep you confident:

1 Corinthians 10:13

Psalms 34:18

-Trent

So many times, people judge us by what we have done in the past. God doesn’t. He looks beyond our faults to see the potential.

He didn’t look at Noah and see a drunkard, He saw an Ark builder. He didn’t look at Moses and see a murderer, He saw a leader. In David, he didn’t see an adulterer, He saw his big valiant heart. When He looked at Elijah, he didn’t see a crazy man that walled around half naked and barefoot, He saw a prophet who would carry His word.

Don’t pay attention to what the world says about you, for you are not your past. You are born with a purpose.

God decreed it in Jeremiah 1:5: “Before I formed thee in the belly, I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb, I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations.”

With a destiny like that, you were made for greatness!

-Stacy Johnson

We are responsible for what happens in the future. We are the teachers that are teaching the students of this generation. We make the beds that they lay in and we leave the footprints that they will follow.

If we don’t create a better self, there is no way we can provide a better future.

We have to start upholding our responsibilities in raising the seeds of tomorrow, and stop letting the world infiltrate that garden. Regardless of what you may think, SOMEBODY, SOMEWHERE at SOMETIME is or will be looking up to you and you should have enough side-pride to make sure that you’re something worth looking at.

The children will follow the path that YOU lead, so make sure your trail is leading them in the right direction, because after all, if you’re lost yourself, it will be hard for the one’s that follow behind to find who they truly are.

TAKE PRIDE IN BEING A LEADER!

-Trent

We hate it because it slows us down and it’s an inconvenience to us. Have you ever thought about the main reasons that road construction exists? It’s usually one of two things.

1. They are widening the lanes so you can move about them more freely
2.  Something is wrong with the road

Now I’m sure the last thing you wanted today was to think about road construction, but have you ever thought about love in regards to road construction? If you view love as a road or freeway, then it will probably help your love life.

Love, like a road, is at it’s best when it’s freely moving to and from, without any problems, i.e. traffic. When communication is open and the love flows freely, everything is good. Howevere, love isn’t without faults. We as people “break down” and we need construction sometimes. Sometimes, love has potholes that need to be fixed as well.

Often times, when we don’t feel the love being returned from our significant other or we feel we are moving, yet they are at a standstill, we start to question whether or not they love us, whether or not we want to stay on this highway of love with them. We also begin to question the person all together.

Do we ever really stop and think maybe something is wrong with their side of the road? Could it be possible that they are in need of repair?

Most of us curse road construction but never stop to think that it exists to HELP us, not to hinder us.  Love is the same way.

If we would look at our loved ones during times when love is damaged with understanding and focus on helping to fix the road or fix the problem, rather than cursing the individual for having a problem, love will return sooner, quicker, and better than it was before.

The next time you’re “not feeling loved” by your significant other or spouse, take a step back, analyze the problem, and ask how you can help fix it.  Explain to your loved one that you understand they may be hurting or in need of repair, and you’re ready to put on your hardhat and get to work with mending that road so that love can flow freely again.

It’s all a matter of perspective.

After all, true love is giving, not taking.

True love is putting the others needs, wants, and desires ahead of your own. True love is fixing the potholes in life together and being patient, realizing repair takes time.

True love realizes that the construction project will be completed one day and will result in magnificent, free-flowing love.

-Baylor

I would encourage you to ask yourself those questions today and then boldly walk out the answers. Open your eyes and see the beauty of the world around you again. Wish upon a star. Settle for nothing less than magic. Dare to believe.

Second star to the right and straight on til morning…

-Wendy Collins

Sometimes things just END, with no reason or no explanation. But in the words of Whitney Houston: “It’s not right, but it’s okay…you’re gonna make it anyway.” Stop trying to right the wrongs and let the wrongs get GONE! Bottom line: If you lost it…if it walked away…if the door closed…it wasn’t for you. Something better is coming.
-Wendy Collins

Realize that it IS possible to walk away from an encounter with an ex feeling cheerful instead of tearful. Coming face-to-face with your Past can actually be enlightening, healing, and even downright empowering. Life is handing you an opportunity to come full circle, to shine your light on the dark days of your break-up and to exorcise the ghosts of your past right outta your life once and for all. When life designs a chance encounter between you and your ex, that’s a powerful thing; it’s a synchronistic thing; and it’s an opportunity for growth that should be seized. There is no better way to turn your Life around than by facing the Past without backing down.

And just think: If you run, you’ll miss out on the fun of realizing he was never The One…

-Wendy Collins
-@wendynikohl

-Trent

-Stay in a situation for all the WRONG REASONS when they have given you all the RIGHT REASONS to leave.

-Know what’s good for you but still doing what’s bad for you.

-Satisfy others by unsatisfying yourself

-Pretend not to see what your eyes have been opened up to.

-Search for signs when you already got reasons.

-Expect something different from a situation that hasn’t changed

-Be faithful to pleasing others by being unfaithful to who you truly are.

-Give all of you to a person that deserves nothing from you.

-Trust those that have proven they aren’t trustworthy

-Teach yourself the same lessons that you aren’t learning from.

-Hang on to the words of a person that your heart should let go of.

…How do you break your own heart?!? By doing these things…giving your heart back to the situations that
broke it the first time. Remember the only way your heart can be broken twice by the same person…Is if you give them permission to! Don’t let that happen..

-Trent #rehabtime

Reflection: “There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.” Proverbs 16:25 ~Sharece~

-Trent

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-Trent

-To many times in life we take fact from “WHAT WE HEARD” instead of from WHAT WE KNOW. It’s always a reason to “why” and sometimes as people we have the tendency to pass judgment before knowing that reason. I know people that have been labeled stuck up by others, that were humble as can be towards me, and vice versa. Life has taught me that PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS GOING TO ACT CERTAIN WAYS TOWARDS CERTAIN PEOPLE FOR CERTAIN REASONS and not giving a person a chance should be based from what you know not from what you have heard. Everybody ISN’T meant to be in everyone’s life, but everybody is meant to be in someone’s life, so just because they couldn’t be apart of theirs doesn’t mean they can’t be apart of yours! What’s a enemy to someone else could be a friend to you, and what someone viewed as a “roadblock” could be seen as a blessing in your eyes. Most people are usually misunderstood due to past misunderstandings, so don’t live a life of assumptions or pass judgment before getting to know a person and their “why”.

-Trent

-Hating is an emotion in my book and you only have emotions to things that you’re attached to or somehow effects you! The problem is not the person hating, it’s their pride that won’t let them compliment your success! So their jealously manipulates their mind into hate! So just know your haters really do LOVE what you do, they just have a different way of expressing it! Pretty much like kids in elementary school, they tease the ones that they have the biggest crushes on. TAKE IT AS A COMPLIMENT never become offensive because acknowledging a “hater” gives them power and even when you prove them wrong…guess what? You’re proving them right! Why… because you wasted something of yours that is valuable on something that is worthless…Your Time on a HATER!  The more you focus on the things that they are saying… the less you will focus on the things that you should be doing.

-Trent

I love you Lord. I love you for all you’ve done for me. When I thought I was alone you were always there for me. You had faith in me, when you have the whole World to look out for. You kept your faith in me, me…for this I am honored. Through my life conditioning I will do my best, even when it’s tough. I will appreciate the trials, the lessons, and the rewards. When I fail, I will try again. I will hold my head high.  I will not give up, because I understand it’s all just to make me strong. Whenever I have doubt to you first I will call. I know you won’t give up on me, so I won’t give up on me. You know what is best for me. You’re preparing me for anything. Teaching me to be offensive in a defensive world. You are my protector. Every day you strengthen my heart, my mind, body and soul. Conditioning me so I can represent you, and teach all that I know. So I will not complain, no I won’t complain. You sacrificed for me, so I will do the same. Oh the love you give me lord. Nothing and no one compares. You are my life coach. I will worship you every day. I will thank you every day. I will not let all your sacrifices, and work you put into building me waist away. You are worth my all. You are my God.  I give myself to you. I love you, and I thank you. I’m overly and abundantly blessed, all because of the love you have for me.

Thank you

Love,

Your child

By: Tiffany Allen

Don’t know what it is to you, but to me it’s motivation to keep trusting in God because Life without him is nothing.

-Terry Shelton

-The same people who laughed when you failed, will be the main people clapping for your success as if they were rooting for you all along.  They despised your miscues, but compliment your perfections. They saw no sense in pushing the wagon, but want to hop on board when the wagon is moving full speed.  These are the people that tell you building the building will be impossible, but once the building is finished they want the credit in the finished product.  After you climb the latter to the top, most will take the elevator just to be a part of YOUR success at the top. Surround yourself around those that believed in you when you started to “BREAK GROUND” on your dreams because those will be the one’s that will help you clean up the rumble “if” your dreams happen to fall.

-Trent

-Trent

and The Pain you Caused

Makes me so Angry

It Puts Reality on Pause

All I Can Think of

Is This Hurt Inside

Tears just Start Flowing

and I Lose my Pride

I Fight Everyday so

You Don’t Get the Best of Me

When I don’t Think of You

My Whole World is Free

Just One Call or Text

Fills my Heart with Pain

All The Horrible Memories

Fill My Tears like Rain

I Want it to Stop and

For You to Just Go Away

All this Hurt and Pain

To be Buried and Stay

As Many Times I claim

You Can’t Hurt me Anymore

When I think of you

It all Becomes Restored

So I Wonder if It’s Possible

To Rid you From my Heart

Cause no Matter How Hard I try

Your Memories just Won’t Part…

-Vanessa Little

quick sand

The harder I fight to get out,

The further and faster I sink

It feels like I’m pushing against

A stonewall

The harder I push,

The more energy I lose

And the wall doesn’t move at all

It feels like I’m swimming against

The current

The harder I swim forward

The weaker I get,

And I’m pushed back

I’m working so hard to get out

Pushing through to where I’m

Suppose to be, but it’s just not working

Not working for me

Maybe it’s time to stop doing it my way

Maybe it’s time to stay still,

Stop fighting against

What God has planned for me?

It’s time to do it his way.

This is what if feels like…

If you feel like you keep trying, but you are getting nowhere. You feel out of place, like a fish out of water, a lion in a zoo,

Mariah Carey as an actress, you’re not where you’re supposed to be. You’re way isn’t going to be the right way. You have to do it Gods way. Once you do, it will feel easy; you won’t feel like you’re hitting dead ends, working hard to get nowhere. Trust him and his way. It’s time to do it Gods way.

-Tiffany Allen

-Trent

Britton

Rehab Time

I know I’m doing something right, when my son comes home loaded with a smile, hugs, and starts thanking God for his day. When he tells me his favorite book is the bible. He reads his children’s bible every night, and I don’t have to tell him. He asks questions, because he wants to learn more about Jesus. One of the best things you can do for your child is teach them to grow in the light of God. Give your child the chance to know him, his word, and be saved. When they get older they will remember, and will carry on what they’ve learned. My eight-year-old cousin was just baptized this past weekend, and my son will soon be too. My son is around other children who are learning about God. He goes to school, and tells me of stories he discussed with his friends about God. He’s a little boy still growing, and learning. It is a wonderful thing to see children praising God, and understanding, and appreciating how much he loves them. I know that I’m doing something right, and it’s a great feeling.

Proverbs 22-6 reads: Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

By: Tiffany Allen

You got fired from that job just to get a higher paid position at another job,

Your relationship fell apart with your “PERFECT” person just to marry God’s PERFECT person for you.

You do not realize NOW what i’m doing BUT later you will understand

All your friends turned their back just so you could look back to see who really had your back.

Your heart got broken just so you can show other’s how to repair theirs.

You had a bad past just so God can renew your heart for a better future

You do not realize now what i’m doing, BUT later you will understand

You overslept for your meeting just so you could miss the car crash the devil had intended for you.

You got knocked down to your knees by life just so you could lean on God and allow him to show you his strength to pick up back up and give you a more prosperous live than you deserve.

You do not realize now what i’m doing, BUT later you will understand

You got told NO hundreds of times just so you could get THE RIGHT YES

You went through it just so he could show you HE COULD SHOW YOU HE COULD BRING YOU THROUGH IT

You do not realize now what i’m doing, BUT later you will understand.

-Don’t question God, He KNOWS WHAT HE IS DOING. As John 13:7 states. “You Do not realize now what I’m doing, BUT LATER you will understand.” Remind yourself of these words, when your trails want you to question God.

-Wayne Collins

As we close 2010 you can look back over your life and the lives of the people around you and you will notice a few things:

· You can know the truth and not apply it to your life
· The truth can be spiritual and physical

For example, you can know you need to go to church, treat your spouse better, find ways to make money instead of watching TV every night, spend more time with your kids, stop drinking so much, stop smoking, get another job that will make you happy, plan for retirement, etc. AND DO ABSOULUTELY NOTHING!!

So we know that the words are TRUE – “The truth can make you free” but you have to read the entire scripture and you will understand the following statements:

1. Faith without works is dead – If you know something and don’t apply it – that will yield NOTHING!
2. Having a vision and never making plans to accomplish goals will get you NO WHERE!
3. People who read a lot of books do not make them wealthy!
4. Talking about taking care of your family, being a father figure, and supporting your family does not make you a good parent and husband

Talk is so cheap! We have taken for granted that a good dose of planning and commitment to put the plan in action and see it through is the key ingredient to actually getting to the finish line!

As we embark on 2011, there are NO NEW Year’s Resolutions!! – Only committed individuals who make plans to accomplish NOT the impossible, but the POSSIBLE by staying committed and applying the knowledge gained from the years BEFORE 2011.

Commitment and Planning points to Character, Honesty and Integrity – Do you DO WHAT YOU SAY YOU DO. The worst person to disappoint is YOURSELF. Impress yourself this coming year and let the TRUTH SET YOU FREE!!

by Lou Gary Hughes Jr.

Britton

Rehab Time

Unsure of the directions I must take but one thing I know for sure is that I’m to walk by faith and not by sight as the world is known to do. I decided to walk down this life’s pathway when I answered the Father’s call from above.

Everything going so smooth, I asked my Father to draw me close and make me more like His Son. Then all of a sudden my world turned upside down with test and trails that came my way and I didn’t understand why? There is no way possible to walk this life’s pathway that I have chosen.

So discouraged and ready to give up from all the hurt and pain in my life, I know I have failed. It seems nothing turns out right. With tears in my eyes and with all of my heart, I cried out, “Father! This is not what I wanted nor is this what I asked for. Can’t you see there is too much pain?”

Then I hear His soft gentle voice telling me, “Through the test and trails that I have sent into your life, they are to teach you to lean and trust in Me. Through test and trails I draw you close and make you more like MY Son.” Now I’m beginning to understand why.

Still with all the test and trails I stumble, fall, and at times I just want to give up. I still wonder why it has to be so hard, why can’t I just run and hide? There is too much pain and heartache to continue on a journey down this life’s pathway no matter how hard I try.

Again I hear that soft and gentle voice of my Father saying to me, “Don’t be discouraged and don’t give up for I have brought you this far. I have never left you, my child, and I will never leave you alone. I will go with you each step and every mile of the way, until your work is done.”

With His words so gentle and softly spoken, now encourages me to stand tall. Through tests and trails that still come my way I know that I’m not alone and my strength is renewed each and every day. So no matter what may come my way, I will draw close to my Father and become more like His Son. Then when my journey down this life’s pathway finally comes to an end, I know without a doubt I will stand with Them through out all eternity.

-Wayne Collins

….So take my advice…Treat Love right the first time because the first time might be the only time.  Don’t put yourself in a position where you are chasing what you ran away.  Don’t leave the gate open for their love to escape, LOCK IT UP and throw away the key. Remember, it should never be a SECOND TIME if TRUE LOVE is present the first time.

-Trent

Two people + Common Interest x (Trust x Appreciation)² =Healthy Relationship

The most important thing you should take from my Relationship Series is how does it apply to you? Many different people have many different relationships and express them in many very different ways. This formula simply shows what is important for everything to work out. With these basic principles a relationship can go a very long way. If you need personal assistance with any thing or have a question about your relationship and would like to ask me, email me at britton@rehabtime.organd I will be glad to help. God put us all here for a reason, to explore relationships with others, help and guide others when they need it, and ask for guidance and help when WE need it. Remember, just like Rehab Time, in a relationship it “all starts with you”.

Britton

-Tiffany Allen

A place so dark,

No love in sight,

This here place,

We started in the light,

Ended in eternal night,

How did we end up here?

Once my best friend,

Now my enemy,

Once loved me,

Now you hate me,

How did we end up here?

So cold, very alone,

Once a shoulder I could lean on,

Now when I lean I fall,

How did we end up here?

Once a time when I smiled bright,

Now no smile is in sight,

Once a touch I couldn’t be without,

Now a touch I don’t want

There’s no doubt

I needed you in my life,

Now you want me out your life,

Once I said I loved you,

Once you loved me too,

Now you hate me,

My heart won’t let me

I said for the rest of my life

Here I’d be with you

Now it’s so unimaginable

I use to remember every

Moment…

Happiness was stolen

How did we end up here?

This place so cold

It kills the soul

No where to go

How did we end up here?

A place so dark,

No love in sight,

This here place,

We started in the light,

Ended in eternal night.

How did we end up here?

By: Tiffany Allen

-Veronica Leno

The thing that I learned in life is that we can lead people to water but we can’t make them drink it, or we can put people in positions to score, but can’t make them shoot the ball.  You can give people a plan, but only they can execute the plan, and you can only lead those that are trying to follow.  Anyone will be apart of anything you’re doing as long as the work doesn’t reside in their hands, but you’ll see who’s serious about the plan when they push you to do better because they want the team to reach that goal just as much as you do.  They don’t want to be carrying but instead they want to run that 100 meters in that 4×100 meter relay.  THEY WANT TO DO THEIR PART.  But if they don’t……

You can’t expect other’s to have your expectations, and you can’t blame other’s for not seeing your vision.  Your 30% might be their 100%, but make sure that they are giving that 30% not expecting to survive off your 100%. Never turn your back on your team, but sometimes you have to step out and get the reward your work deserves. Remember, You don’t have to MAKE people do anything when they are serious and committed, but do know when you do make people do things…you’re just making people do things they don’t want to do. When you keep doing that, that’s like running with someone on your back, or carrying that child around when that child can walk….it’s going to keep you from doing what YOU need to do effectively and in a timely manner.  You can’t baby sit other’s and expect to reach dreams when your selfish… meaning they require our full out effort and attention.

If you take nothing from this blog, TAKE THIS….”It’s ok to teach your team how to walk, but you will know when they’re SERIOUS about making dreams come true when they teach themselves how to run along on the side of you!”

-Trent Shelton

Britton

Rehab Time

Be True to Yourself
And Always Put GOD First
He Will Provide Everything you Need
As Long as You Have a Hunger and Thirst

To Be All The Things
He Wants You to Be
Just Look Through His Eyes… Your No Longer Blind
With Faith You can Now See

Change starts with you…
Through Your Mind, Body, and Soul
Feel Full Inside, Believe in yourself
And You Will Always Reach Your Goals

A True Heart Doesn’t Care
If One’s Past is Full of Crime
We Will Always See Your Heart….Not your Past
Here at RehabTime!

Vanessa Little

Don’t let “disaster” keep your life in the rubble, but let it build your life back up to make your life stronger than it was before.  Sometimes we have to go through that destruction, so we can be blessed with an even enormous construction.  So if your disaster is heartbreak let it build your heart back up to be unbreakable.  Never let rejection take your confidence, but let it feed your dreams.  It’s always sunshine behind the clouds, but only through faith you’ll develop the belief that the sun will shine on your life again.  So if you say you want change, JUST CHANGE and as you affect your life, other’s lives will be affected in your process of positive change.

-Trent

Movie Recommendation: Fireproof (Christian movie about relationships)

Male Book Recommendation: Wild at Heart by John Eldredge

Female Book Recommendation: Captivating by Stasi Eldredge

Britton

Rehab Time

-A Few Men find “THE WOMAN”, while most will always chase THAT WOMAN.

-Trent Shelton

*Spin off from Sherace Vance “The Man Vs. That Man”

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I don’t speak of this with pride.
I’m confessing that I stumble
and need Christ to be my guide.

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I’m not trying to be strong.
I’m professing that I’m weak
And need His strength to carry on.

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I’m not bragging of success.
I’m admitting I have failed
And need God to clean my mess.

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I’m not claiming to be perfect,
My flaws are far too visible
But, God believes I am worth it.

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I still feel the sting of pain.
I have my share of heartaches
So I call upon His name.

When I say…
“I am a Christian”
I’m not holier than thou,
I’m just a simple sinner
Who received God’s good grace, somehow!

By: BreAnn Marie

Focus on the heart; forget the past, because how can you move forward when you are looking back? Remember that….

Britton
Rehab Time

It’s All in Your Past

You Can Turn Things Around

Change Only Requires the Removal of your Mask

Be True to Yourself

And Put GOD First

He Will Provide Everything you Need

As Long as You Have a Hunger and Thirst

To Be All The Things

He Wants You to Be

Look Through His Eyes

Your No Longer Blind You can Now See

Now Get Straight

With Your Mind, Body, and Soul

Feel Full Inside

And Reach All Your Goals

Cause We Don’t Care

If Your Past is Full of Crime

We See Your Heart Not Your Past

Here at RehabTime!

-Vanessa Little

“Choose your friends wisely,” is what they said. You remember back in the day, your mom didn’t want you hanging with Sam, because he was a troublemaker, or with Kelly, because she was “fast.” She didn’t want you to be getting into trouble, but Sam was your best friend, so you hung with him anyways. Every time he did something wrong in the neighborhood you would get blamed too, and the people would say “those bad kids,” even though you did nothing wrong. Well, it hasn’t changed a bit. People gossip, and they are still judging you based upon who you are associated with in public.

Can one lit match start a forest fire? Gossip is just that…a lit match, and it can start a forest fire, so to speak. One lit match is all it takes, and then it seems that many people become a “judge” with no jury. They are quick to label a person by what they see and have heard having no true knowledge of who that individual really is. For example, a girl who is known to “get around” or even hang around with ball players, celebrities, etc is labeled as a groupie. This is something she will be known as every time she steps foot into a social scene, and whom ever walks with her is labeled the same, and there goes the saying, “Look at those groupies.” Or the guy with best friends that are homosexual, so he must be too, right? The man who hangs with “rich” friends must have money. The woman, whose friend is known as a whore, is also a whore. He has tattoos, drives an old school on 22’s so he must be a drug dealer, and so are you, and the perceptions and judging goes on and on.

Labeling and judging based upon social status, and gossip, has become normal, and it is affecting friendships, relationships, people’s confidence, etc.

What happened to giving people respect? We shouldn’t judge a person by their past mistakes, or even what we hear. Treating a person as if they are beneath us and labeling them as if we know them is not our job. The Lord wants us to respect each other. An individual can have a heart of gold, but it would not be known, because of judgment. I’ve seen people turn their back on their friends, because of hear say, or whom they hang around. If it doesn’t look right in the viewer’s eye then they can’t be associated. There past mistakes may be a popular topic that keeps you from respecting them. If God forgives, we should forgive as well. God says not to judge, so we should not judge.

People don’t want to be judged or labeled something they aren’t, but don’t hesitate to do it to someone else. There is nothing positive that comes from judging someone. We should choose the people we hang with wisely, but not turn our backs on the friends that have made mistakes. Give respect to those whom you do not know, by not slandering their name, and ruining their credibility when you know nothing about them. One bad apple may spoil the bunch in others opinion, but a lit match can start a forest fire. Don’t feed into the gossip.

-Tiffany Allen

Britton

Rehab Time–

-Sharece

-Twyla Jarmon

From this we see the power of love, the power of relationships that God wants us to focus on. The two most important relationships are your relationship with God and the relationships you encounter with other people one on one. Like I stated before, love is all about give and take, however finding the right person to share this philosophy with is never an easy task. Many people come and go in our lives, some you can live without and others you cant. It is amazing for me to think back to the way I ended up where I am today. I realized that just treating a girl the right way was not good enough, I reached a point to where I was dating to be comfortable, it wasn’t fair to me or her. After the end I fell away from being the Real Man that God wanted me to be, it took my heart and my mind separating, it took lies from others, and the dishonesty that I had felt before in relationships to lead me down the wrong path. Why would God not let you be with someone you love? Quickly ask your self was it God’s doing, or your own? Ill fully admit I was selfish, I was dumb, I tried to deny my heart but God knew my happiness lied in the next relationship I would have. The path to get there was painful, the loneliest of my life thus far, its great to know I will never feel that again. My prayers were answered, you cant deny your heart, God lives within our hearts and is guiding us to a better life. It is when we choose to go against that, we start to witness the bad in life. Stay true to your heart, follow the path God has chosen. You cant do it alone, you need God’s help.

-Britton

Rehab Time

What if I told you
All I see is you and me

What if I told you
In my heart you’ll always stay

What if I told you
My love for you never went away

What if you could forgive and look past the hurt
What if somehow we could still make it work
What if I could still be what u want me to be
Then could it be you and me
Just You and Me

What if I told  you
To take a chance and try this one more time

What if I Told you
We can play by your rules, ain’t playin by mine

What if I told u
Deep down I know you still care

What if I told you
I never left,  don’t you know I’m still here

What if you could forgive and look past the hurt
What if somehow we could still make it work
What if I could still be what u want me to be
Then could it be you and me
Just You and Me

You and me
You and me
You and me
Could it be?….

I found myself judging my peers the same way,  if they weren’t beautifully “wrapped”  then that had to mean they had nothing to offer.  Just as my parents used the smallest box and poorly wrapped the items with the most value,  over the years I found out just because it’s poorly wrapped doesn’t mean the inside is worthless.  I’ve LEARNED from the poorly wrapped homeless man, but rarely learned from those who’ve wrapped themselves in the finest linen….Why??…because the homeless man stood behind truth and his “wrap” didn’t represent his heart whereas the “successful man” stood behind his pride and his “wrap” represented his lies.  He was living the life through his “wrap” but he was dying within his heart.  I guess you can say he put others before himself but not in the way that he should.  He was a people person but still suffered from loneliness, and the homeless man was always alone, but loneliness is something he didn’t experience.      I always wondered why that was but as me being that “successful man” I can first hand tell you that you can live a lie to get close to the people you want to impress, but that lie will make you feel so distant from yourself, you won’t even recognize the reflection in the mirror because you’ll become blind to who you can became.

As the homeless man told me I will tell you, “Don’t worry about your outer “wrap” just make sure that your heart is “wrapped” with God and you’ll have everything that you need.  You can never be alone when God is always by your side!”

-Trent

Relationships are about give and take. Imagine walking into a relationship each carrying a bag full of thoughts of “Must Haves and Can’t Haves”. Dating is sorting through these bags together. Example being…a man pulls out that he likes to make decisions and the woman pulls out that she is indecisive..you put those two together and realize in this relationship he will make a majority of the decisions…you get the idea. The problem is when you reach a disagreement. The man wants to eat on the couch, the woman at the dinner table, you must meet in the middle. It is all about give and take. Relationships are only as successful as the amount of effort you place in them. Dating works out these differences until you either go your separate ways or carry the same values hand in hand in the same bag.

How much are you willing to give? Is it less than your willing to take? This can help YOU fix relationship problems without ever pointing a finger…fix you first.

Britton Barbee
Rehab Time

@BrittonBarbee

I wake up every morning in a great mood, loving life, and appreciating all that God has done for me. I have a wonderful family. Mom, Dad, Terry,Trent, Tristan, and Terry Jayden, I love you guys with all my heart. I have a great job that I love going to every morning, and seeing my wonderful students and coworkers. Then I have some of the best friends money can buy..lol(Just Joking). Sometimes in life we Sweat the small stuff as I call it. Worrying about simple things like: buying new shoes, a new car, a new outfit for the club. Worrying about how am I  going  to pay my cable bill this month, or my internet bill, when most of the things on the Internet or Cable, have no GODLY Purpose or purpose at all for that matter…. (I’ll save this topic for another day).

But why worry about this stuff? Their are people in this world with AIDS,Cancer, In a Wheelchair for Life, People that Didnt Wake up this morning, and etc. etc……. I’m thankful everyday for the little things in life. I have a Healthy State of Mind, I’m able to Get Up and walk to my own mailbox to get my own mail, stuff that we take for granted:

So I know yall are saying Todd get to the Point…We know you like to talk….

I was in church this morning, and the Lord led me to Genesis Chapter 19 versus 12-22..This is the Story of Sodom and Gomorrah, its a great story to read in the BIBLE. The story is talking about how GOD is going to destroy these two cities. But he gives Lott’s family mercy, and orders them to flee the city, with one warning. In versus 17 it says: “Escape with your life! Do Not look back  and do not stay anywhere in the plain, escape to the mountains, or you will be destroyed. But in versus 26 Lott’s wife looked back behind him, and was destroyed to a pillar of salt…

Its like when we are teaching our kids to play sports…..Running Track for example, or  football….We tell the kids to always run straight don’t look behind you.

In Basketball I tell my kids to dribble the ball looking straight ahead don’t look back because that person might catch you, and foul you.

So I want to tell people the same things goes for Relationships, Drugs or Alcohol, Sexual Abuse. Don’t look back, or you might get trapped by the Devil, because you are trying to hold unto something that is not for you. God has your best interest in mind. Stay focused on the prize by looking straight ahead, and following his footsteps.

The boyfriend that beats you, but you just cant let him go because you love him so much, and yall have kids together…God has another boyfriend in mind, someone that is going to treat you like a queen. The Alcoholic that just needs one more sip, put it in God’s hands and he will let you sip out of the cup of eternal life.

I look at relationships and stuff in my past like this: Lets say I was driving an old beat down ford focus with 100 thousand miles on it. This car is barely getting me from work, and breaking down more times than getting me there. So finally the car breaks down, and I’m discouraged because I don’t have a way to work. Well God comes along and blesses me with a brand new Tahoe sitting on 22′s. But as you start driving that new Tahoe, to work everyday, you start crying, because you think how much you miss that old ford focus because it had so much sentimental value. Folks stop holing on to that no good relationship for sentimental value reasons, and grasp something that has real world and Godly Value…

Last Night I went to go watch the Movie Wall Street, and I took one major point away from the movie. It was a quote from Albert Einstein and it was how he defined insanity: He said insanity is:  doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Don’t be insane in your relationships and in your past…If we want a different result in our life,then change the way we are doing things right now.

Lastly Remember what Michael Jackson said: It starts with the Man in The Mirror… but I will take it one step further and say it doesn’t only start with the Man In the Mirror but Also the Man Upstairs…

Best Blessed and Have A Great Week.

-Todd Shelton